10 Things Narcissists Cannot Do For You or Anyone Else

If you have ever been in a relationship with a narcissist you know they can offer nothing a healthy relationship can. They do nothing but take and refuse to give.

Narcissism is one of the worst most toxic personality traits you can come across, and it can do extreme amounts of damage to those who come across those with it. The life of a narcissist revolves around their well-being and getting what they want, nothing else. They are master manipulators who will stop at nothing to get their way.

Below you will find a list of examples a relationship with a narcissist will not be able to give you. If you want to be truly happy and abuse free you need to find someone who is NOT a narcissist. If your partner cannot do the following they need to be kicked to the curb.

1. They don’t give a shit about how you feel.

They literally don’t care if they hurt you or not. Your emotions do not matter to them. They will do whatever they want whether it bothers you or not.

2. They don’t care about your problems.

In healthy relationships, your problems are also your partner’s problems to an extent, but when you’re with a narcissist that is a no go. The narcissist doesn’t want to hear about how bad your day was unless he or she can benefit from it in some way. Your problems are always going to be shrugged off when it comes to asking the narcissist for advice or help in general.

3. They will not make you feel good about yourself.

The narcissist will do nothing but tear you down once he or she has you under their control. They are usually very passive-aggressive and will constantly be feeding you remarks that make you feel like shit. They want you to feel bad so that they can keep you ‘in check.’

4. They will never apologize.

Whether you corner them or not they will never tell you they are sorry for anything. They will gaslight you into either giving up or believing that you are wrong about the whole situation. Also, 9 times out of 10 they will become defensive and try to pawn things off on something you have done in the past.

5. They will never appreciate what you do for them.

They are takers, nothing you ever do will be good enough. You can give a narcissist the world and he or she will still always want more. Even if you do something filled with emotion it will be completely irrelevant.

6. They will never support you emotionally.

When it comes to handling your emotions you are on your own. The narcissist doesn’t care about anyone but themselves, and doesn’t offer any kind of emotional support. The more emotion you show the more fragile they will call you.

7. They will never accept responsibility for their own actions.

Nothing is ever the narcissist’s fault, even when it is. He or she will never admit to having done any wrong and any attempt to call them out on it will do no good. They will even go so far as to blame you for things that are their fault. For instance, if he or she oversleeps and is late you should have woken them up. right?

8. They will never love you.

They will only ‘love’ you when they can benefit from you and that is not real love at all. They will only act as if they love you to get what they want, once they cannot benefit from you they will move on. You are not someone they consider to be important and that is their fault not yours.

9. They cannot offer you security.

You will always be on your toes when you are in a relationship with a narcissist. Walking on eggshells is in no way secure. You will feel as if it is impossible to please them.

10. They will never see you as their equal.

The narcissist will always think that he or she is better than you and everyone else. You will never be on the same level as the narcissist inside his or her mind. Do you really want to be with someone who thinks less of you?