Signs Of Dyspraxia
It took 26
years of my life for me to realize that I had dyspraxia. Before then, I had
spent 26 years of my life wandering through life being diagnosed with ADHD and
an “undiagnosable” learning disability. I was extremely clumsy, often tripping
up and down stairs, constantly walking into strangers, and even dropping stuff
constantly.
Dyspraxia, referred to
as DCD in the United States ,
is a neurological disorder. It primarily affects motor function(the ability to
eat, speak, and move). Symptoms range from; poor balance, difficulty planning
or organizing ones thoughts, to tendencies to bumping and falling into things
or people. Many people with dyspraxia are prone to having low self-esteem, and
depression. It is estimated that between 2-10 percent of the population has
dyspraxia. Dyspraxia can also be common in people who were premature at birth,
and had low birth weight.
Simply put: Not all of
the messages your brain is sending to your body are getting through.
Think of it like a post
card or a package getting lost somewhere along the way. It’s happened and still
happens to this day. The signals basically get muddled and lost along the way.
Dyspraxia is often
under-diagnosed or misdiagnosed with ADHD, dyslexia, dysgraphia, etc. Many
doctors are unable to readily diagnose DCD and are not as familiar as they
should be with it. Which explains to me why as a child, most of my teachers and
physicians knew I had a learning disability, but could never put their finger
on it.
For me, I spent 26 years of my life diagnosed with ADHD and a
learning disability that many could never place their hands on or name. I was
constantly losing things, walking into people and struggling to pay attention
in class and getting over tired from the constant amount of homework.
I was constantly in and
out of learning strategies classes in school to help me learn to, “be more
organized”. Teachers would often get frustrated with me and label me as an
underachiever and lazy when I’d struggle to find the energy to finish a task.
Some celebrities with
dyspraxia are; Florence Welch from Florence
and the Machine, Albert Einstein, and Jamie Lambert and Daniel Radcliffe, who
struggles with tying his shoelaces.
Here are 18
signs you may be dyspraxic:
1.
You Find It Hard To Concentrate
Getting distracted, and
finding it extremely hard to focus is a common struggle for people with ADHD
and dyspraxia.
For me, my ability to
concentrate or not will show up in specific situations. Sometimes I’m able to
have conversations with people for hours on end, and sometimes after five
minutes I’ll just start staring at the ceiling fan. I can curl up on the couch
by the fire and read a book for hours, however I find it hard to sit still and
watch a movie for hours. I end up getting jumpy and distracted and need to move
around. I can sit and watch a baseball game for hours, soccer however I lose
concentration after the first five minutes.
2. You’re Constantly Losing
Everything
I feel like a good portion of my day consists of me
walking around going, “Where did I leave my car keys?” or, “Where on earth did
my shoes go?’.
I struggle with making a place for everything and then
remembering where those places are.
The struggle is real, y’all.
3. You’re Really, Really Clumsy
I’ve gotten so used to looking at my legs or arms and seeing
random bruises. I used to get really worried and go, “How did that get
there?!”. Now, I look like, “Cool! Another bruise.”
In the ’70s dyspraxia
was known as “clumsy child syndrome”. Now, the term is no longer used among
experts and physicians who diagnose.
While many
with dyspraxia might actually be – clumsy – and clumsiness might actually be
one of the most common symptoms, many aren’t actually that clumsy. Many suffer
from other symptoms in dyspraxia more so than clumsiness.
4. Your Balance Isn’t Great
No matter how many yoga classes
I’ve gone to and how much time I spend at the gym practicing balance exercises,
making sure I don’t fall over is a daily struggle for me.
I can be known to trip, or randomly fall even if there’s nothing there.
I can be known to trip, or randomly fall even if there’s nothing there.
5. You’re Really Bad At Self Care Tasks
While many people with
dyspraxia may have mastered tasks like tying shoelaces, dealing with the
struggles of fine motor skills can be a struggle. Tasks like trying to do your
hair, putting on make up, etc.
My best friend from high school, who is basically my sister,
has done a great job throughout the years of helping me learn to coordinate my
movements, and to teach me tricks and ways of styling my hair, doing my make-up
and even helping me with fashion advice.
Practice makes perfect.
Eventually. Or at least that’s what I say to myself.
Practice makes perfect.
Eventually. Or at least that’s what I say to myself.
6. Can I Have A Medal For Doing Two Things At Once?
During meals, I’m often
really silent because I have to focus on eating.
And if I’m not eating, I’m focused on making conversation and then everyone else finishes and I’m left to eat really fast.
So, usually I’m left eating slowly.
Slow and steady wins the race, right?
And if I’m not eating, I’m focused on making conversation and then everyone else finishes and I’m left to eat really fast.
So, usually I’m left eating slowly.
Slow and steady wins the race, right?
People with
dyspraxia find it nearly impossible to hold two objects in separate hands at
once or even do two tasks at the same time. It’s not only the physical
multitasking that’s difficult.
For instance: There is
no way for me to listen to music and read or study at the same time. I’ve
tried, trust me.
I end up getting distracted and having to re-read the same lines about 15 times before I give up making them go hand in hand.
I end up getting distracted and having to re-read the same lines about 15 times before I give up making them go hand in hand.
7. You Walk Awkwardly
My mom has always told me that I tend to walk slightly off
kilter and off balanced. The way she describes it brings to mind me walking
like a duck. With my feet out to the sides and everything.
For me, I think I walk just fine.
I’m sure as I’m gotten older that my walking has improved.
For me, I think I walk just fine.
I’m sure as I’m gotten older that my walking has improved.
At least, I think it has…..
I can’t even begin to list the amount of times that I’ve been
told that I’m walking – hunched over, I’m leaning too far to my right, now I’m
leaning too far to my left.
I have a hard time walking next to friends. I tend to end up
walking into them – sort of like bumper cars but without the cars or even
elbowing them.
I finally had to tell my friends not be be offended if I want a two person distance between them and me during walks.
I finally had to tell my friends not be be offended if I want a two person distance between them and me during walks.
8. Learning New Skills Is A #Struggle
I currently work at a coffee roastery as a chef. Each day is an
interesting challenge for me. A few weeks ago, I was struggling with learning
how to whisks eggs(correctly). My whole life I’ve struggled with the movement
of the wrist when learning to whisk. Whether I’m whisking eggs, or whisking
batter. It usually looks like I’m beating the batter or eggs.
Learning new skills is a
struggle when you have dyspraxia.
It requires a lot of focus and concentration.
It requires a lot of focus and concentration.
For instance, I spent
years learning how to correctly play the djembe – african drum. For years, my
rhythm was off, it took me ages to eventually learn how to play it so that I
was getting a rhythm I wanted.
9. Your Eye-Hand Coordination Sucks, Let’s Admit It
In middle
school and high school I used to dread P.E. class because my eye-hand
coordination was basically non-existant. People would throw frisbees at me, and
I’d be ten feet away from it and be like, “I got it!”. That or I’d throw a
baseball or basketball to a team member, and it would be like I was making them
run a mile just to get the ball.
Hey, at least they got a workout from it.
Hey, at least they got a workout from it.
I often give people a
fun little eye-hand coordination test: Throw a ball(preferably something small
and soft) at a wall and see if you can catch it. If you’re anything like me
chances are your response will either be, “Oh, shit! I just broke my nose” or,
“Oh, shit! I just broke that lamp!”.
10. You Find Speaking/Eating Difficult
People with
dyspraxia are extremely aware of all of the different mechanisms involved with
eating food, “Bite! Chew! Swallow! Repeat!” All while making sure you
don’t choke on your food in the process and make a mess(which for me ends up
happening anyway). It makes eating food especially tricky. When I eat, I have
to concentrate extra hard. There is no possible way for me to speak during
meals, unless I just forget eating altogether.
Usually my go to foods are soft foods; like soup, pizza, seafood, or even
mashed potatoes. Especially if I’m eating with friends or at a social gathering
and I have to focus on speaking at the same time.
11. Please, No Daily Tasks That Require Moving.
You know how at parties
most people have fun?
I mean, you drink, meet up and chat with friends and eat great food and enjoy great music.
However, while everyone else is enjoying themselves and worry and stress free, you are:
I mean, you drink, meet up and chat with friends and eat great food and enjoy great music.
However, while everyone else is enjoying themselves and worry and stress free, you are:
·
trying
not to bump into any furniture
·
trying
not to bump into anyone
·
trying
to make sure you don’t bump into someone and spill your drink
·
trying
to make sure you don’t drop your glass as you maneuver through the crowds
·
trying
to make sure you don’t spill anything on the carpet
·
trying
to make sure you don’t spill your food everywhere
12. Are You Left or Right- Handed? You’re Not Sure….
In elementary school I would get so confused about which
hand to use. I’m fairly sure my teachers got so frustrated with me for raising
my hand and asking them to help me figure out which hand I should use.
I go back and forth between which hand I use.
I write with my left hand, use the computer mouse with my right and use scissors with my right.Some people with dyspraxia use both their hands to perform everyday tasks, instead of one or the other. They might also struggle with using either hand.
I write with my left hand, use the computer mouse with my right and use scissors with my right.Some people with dyspraxia use both their hands to perform everyday tasks, instead of one or the other. They might also struggle with using either hand.
A fair amount of dyspraxic people are actually
ambidextrous, it’s okay.
I still think it’s cool to be ambidextrous.
13.. You Don’t Sit Normally
My friends and family often tell me about how oddly I sit in
chairs.
I’ve never been able to sit normally in chairs.
It just feels odd and weird to me to sit with my feet on the ground.
Instead I either sit half cross-legged, or totally cross-legged.
I’ve never been able to sit normally in chairs.
It just feels odd and weird to me to sit with my feet on the ground.
Instead I either sit half cross-legged, or totally cross-legged.
It just feels so much more comfortable to me.
As a kid one of my favorite ways to sit on the floor was
half pretzel.
14. Organization Is Not Your Strength
I spent much of my
school years in classrooms that helping me learn better organizational skills.
Sometimes, I’d spend the whole class period setting up binders, and having
everything organized and in the correct place. By the end of the day the binder
would look like an army had raided it for top secret information.
I
was constantly late to class, I was always losing homework, forgetting due
dates, etc.
Needless to say, organization is not my forte. Technology
is.
As an adult and grown woman I understand that I need to be organized.
Half the apps on my phone are devoted to organization, reminders, lists, etc.
I set myself reminders on what I need from the grocery store, exactly what’s on my schedule, where I need to be and at what time.
As an adult and grown woman I understand that I need to be organized.
Half the apps on my phone are devoted to organization, reminders, lists, etc.
I set myself reminders on what I need from the grocery store, exactly what’s on my schedule, where I need to be and at what time.
If I didn’t, I’d be getting lost constantly and probably
spending half the day in bed.
15. Driving Is Like Learning To Read When You’re Blind.
It’s Just So Complicated
I struggle with driving.
I struggle with spacial awareness enough as it is.
Sometimes I think cars are further away than the actually are or that they’re WAY WAY TOO close to my bumper. Sometimes I’m a little too much left or right when I think I’m completely straight.
I struggle with spacial awareness enough as it is.
Sometimes I think cars are further away than the actually are or that they’re WAY WAY TOO close to my bumper. Sometimes I’m a little too much left or right when I think I’m completely straight.
16. It’s Incredibly Difficult To Learn A Physical Sequence
One of the many reasons I gave up teaching yoga was that I could
never fully master the art of teaching the yoga poses in the correct sequences.
I would
either teach classes really fast and hard so that people were completely
drenched in sweat by the first 15 minutes, or I would teach the sequences so
slowly that I’m sure some people just sat in the back reading.
It’s the same reason I struggle with learning how to play the
guitar, use a cash register or even follow dance routines and rhythm.
If I do manage to
remember sequences, I have to do them so much that they’re eventually engrained
into my mind and it’s become my whole life.
17. You
Struggle With Insomnia
You know those night when your brains just wants to focus on
ANYTHING but sleep?
Yeah – that’s my every night…
Yeah – that’s my every night…
If I can hear people arguing, a conversation, music, a crying
baby, etc I know my brain is going to focus on it and I won’t be getting sleep
that night.
Many people who have dyspraxia also struggle with insomnia.
18. Does Your Spatial Awareness Even Exist?
My lack of
spacial awareness helps to explain to people why I’m often stepping on their
toes, or bumping into them or inanimate objects.
See, most people understand that when you’re close to coming
into contact with people, you need to move away and shift your body. It’s not
that people with dyspraxia don’t understand, it’s just that we struggle with
spacial awareness big time.
If you have dyspraxia, you may find yourself crashing into
people on the street. For instance:
·
You
misjudge how far away another person is from you, so you narrowly miss walking
into them or walk into them
·
When
you eat, you misjudge the distance from the plate to the edge of the table, or
the distance from the plate to your mouth. I know whenever I’m done eating, I’m
either coated in food particles, or the table is a work of art.
So, What’s Your Point?
Simply put, there is no
cure for dyspraxia. It is a life long disorder. Pretty much the cure is to try
to be as organized as possible. Many people with dyspraxia often go to speech
therapy and occupational therapy which I went through as a child. Or they’re
put in classes to help them learn organizational skills.
As an adult, I organize
my days with a daily planner. I write every little detail on it, where I have
to be at what time, when my rent is due, etc. Doing so helps me to set
realistic goals and not get lost and forget where I need to go or what I need
to get done.
Dyspraxia is really
under-diagnosed by physicians, teachers, and parents. Especially in the United States .
It’s also really hard to diagnose because it is basically a cluster fuck(excuse
my language) of dealing with different difficulties and often when being
diagnosed, physicians label it as something else.
My goal through this blog post is to spread awareness of dyspraxia and
help others in similar situations as mine. Many people who actually have
dyspraxia are often misdiagnosed with other disabilities.
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